Ok, so before you continue reading my "rant", might I suggest you take a peak at the following article regarding a family in...ummm...just say it Ginger...a family from Canada and how they are planning on raising their THIRD child to pick the gender they want to be once they are older...yes, you did read that right!
Call be close-minded, pro gender specific (not pro gender stereotypical), conservative (me...really?!?!) but this makes NO sense to me...NONE! Some may call this liberal-ahead of our times-only for the "educated-worldly" type parenting...I call it nonsense!!! I am now going to take a deep breath, calm myself and wait for you to "return"...
I wasn't overreacting was I? Ok, maybe a little bit...but please tell me you are as confused as I am about this NEW AGE parenting strategy?!?!?!
I am all for allowing children to express themselves and their own unique personalities in whichever way they feel most comfortable...so if that means that my son wants to play dress-up or Ave wants to get down and dirty, so be it because I don't condone or support male-female stereotypical social-norms. (I actually feel a little uncomfortable for even using "dress-up" and "dirty" to make my point.) More importantly, I speak out about these preconceived notions and I don’t allow it to determine my children’s actions or behaviors.
I managed to read through about 5 pages of comments and that gave me a LITTLE more appreciation from where the parents are coming from, based on some of the supportive input from readers, however, I still say that this type of ideology comes with its own judgment and stereotypical foundation. To suggest that a child would benefit from not having society know their gender in an effort to avoid gender-bias interactions, is giving very little credit to society on a whole. Yes, most of society does treat and perceive boys and girls differently, there is no denying that. However, how are we ever to evolve and change these stereotypes if we don't take a clear stand for the very issue at hand...boys can do "girl things" and girls can do "boy things"? Better yet....children can do all kinda "things” without even labeling it as a "boy" or "girl" activity?
Today is another day and I have actually simmered down since first reading this article. All I can say is that I will try my best to objectively foster the healthy development and individuality of Ave as a girl & Bryce as a boy and I am confident that they will eventually let me know who they are or who they want to be. I also hope to model how to respectfully challenge and express themselves and their beliefs, thereby, becoming a catalyst of positive change in the world.